Dealing with Negativity

August 28th, 2008

As I become aware of my story, I am aware more of my thoughts. I’m aware of just how much negativity still kicks around there, and I have to be super mindful to catch those thoughts.  We get programmed as children about what’s right and wrong. And if you had a particilarly traumatic upbringing, those seeds of negativity run deep. THere is a sense of something is wrong with me. I am inferior. THe world is not as it should be. Something is wrong with it too. There is a tendency to judge and be critical. Or you are waiting for the other shoe to drop. THerefore you create this reality of negativity in your life. IT’s a hard one to stop. Mantra is effective to protect the mind from negativity. I like to also intervene early with children. I will be teaching 4th and 5th graders at Creekside Elementary in Boulder this fall. I’m looking forward to this older group. It will be Mythic Yoga for them, exploring yoga philosophy through wisdom stories and myth to help them live in the world powerfully and peacefully. They are ready for more asana and discipline, and they understand negativity. So much of it is floating around in our kids worlds. Kids have tough lives, but to teach them that everything just IS. That repressing something of ourselves just creates a split, a shadow, and we begin to project our unhappiness onto others. Shiva dances on the cremation grounds. Life is both negative and positive, continually feeding and eating itself to survive. We are human and we make no mistakes, we just live and learn. The darkness is just as important. WE can be aware of it, but also yearn for the transcendent, working for the better. I think teaching positive thinking and meditation to kids is one of the most important things we can do for them. It can save a lot of time in therapy! Just to let kids know that they are the creators of their universe.That is where yoga has helped me most. To realize that all that has happened to me is a blessing. THere is magic in the darkness. There is life. It all had it’s own reason and there is no reason to negate or blame the past. We just recognize the forces of nature at work. And we don’t resist. Resistance is futile, and what resists, persists, we all know!  

Attached to Our Stories

August 27th, 2008

Mulling over yesterday’s post, I realize how long I’ve been telling that story about my childhood.  I used to tell it and tell it and tell it and that’s because I was so attached to it. I identified with it and it was part of me. My energy and emotions used to be wrapped up in it. So I wrote down everything in a memoir, and I remembered that when I finished writing it, I felt a definite shift of energy in my body and life. I didn’t feel so attached to it anymore. I had gotten it off my chest, rather than it all just spinning around in the back of my heart.I’ve noticed that the ability to let go of your story is essential to healing. I saw my sister yesterday, and she still struggles with her past. He identifies with it and it makes her safe and comfortable.  Eckhart Tolle would call this the pain body, and it has a life of its own. We continue to see the world from this story’s point of view, and we create the world because of it. If you ever get a chance to take the Landmark Forum, it explores your story as well and your need to dis-identify with it. It’s just a story. It doesn’t exist anymore. All that exists is now. We can hold onto that story and suffer, or we can create a new day. Remember, the Aboriginies and other cultures don’t hold to our linear idea of time. That whatever happened to us in the past is still with us and marching on to some end. A cyclical idea of time is that it’s all right now. The first day of creation is everyday. So observe your story, let go. In Part II E-Courses, Stories from the Heart, we make our own healing fairy tale. I’m making a new one to deal with my resistance to change. Like I said, I can still hold onto some negative thinking, and it keeps me safe, it’s what I know. It’s my ego mind hanging on for dear life. It’s like hanging out with two trolls in the basement. They are my friends, but not really. A frog appears and shows me some steps up higher to the castle I’m not aware that I am in. But I like to hang out with the trolls, but eventually, because I am exposed to the higher levels, I can move beyond the trolls. I can finally let go of things that no longer serve me. Meditation has that effect. Asana has stopped my busy mind from chatting so much, but really chanting the Maha Mritunjaya mantra for the past five months has been quite effective. How everything just disappears. There is only the creative present of now and it’s miraculous and beautiful! I’m not so afraid of difficulty. As with my father’s war stories and the trauma of my mother, I’m not so avoidant of pain and problems. They are life, and I accept life. I accept the drama but am focused on the transcendent. I participate in the world of duality with strength and courage, tools I picked up from life’s trials. That is the hero’s journey! But most of the time we are just asleep to our story. Getting conscious of our actions and thoughts and story helps us to re-evaluate, wake up, and get present and powerful.  

Yoga and Your Personal Story

August 26th, 2008

I have been asked to write a story about how yoga has influenced my life. Personal story is so important to me. It is the yoga. We are able to self reflect and see our “story” our history, that we have created and are identifying with, rather than the true Self.My older sister, Nancy, who became a Hare Krishna devotee when I was in the 8th grade way back in 1980, always told me that devotees pray for difficulty, because that’s when you are always thinking about God. You don’t think too much about him when you are having fun, but you are always praying “Help me God!” when things go wrong.So it is with my yoga. It has always been with me because of life’s curves and suffering. Mythologist Joseph Campbell always said that the obstacle is the path. Indeed it has been for me. I am so grateful for all my suffering, because since an early age it turned me deeply inward and toward the spirit. Just as in the Hindu myth of Dhruva, he sets out to find Vishnu because he was cheated out of his kingdom, suffering and trouble is a good friend to have.In my e-courses I teach Mythic Yoga, which connects one to his or her personal story, and explores that story that is in the body. So many people have a lot of stuff come up in these courses, even though the first two are about teaching yoga to children through story. However, we are always exploring our personal story through our dreams, experiences, etc. There is a certain vulnerability that comes from telling your personal story, but also a release. I have been heard and witnessed. My story and life has value. And for another person to hear and listen is a gift, for they too make connections and see themselves in your story and are able to say with safety, “I undestand. Let me tell you my story.So may this be an inspiration to you. Share your story. That is the yoga. I grew up always knowing my father was a child survivor of a Japanese concentration camp. He was Dutch, and Indonesia, where he was born in 1933, used to be a Dutch colony.As children we heard all his stories  of the jungles of Java, as well as the horrors of the camp. My father had terrible migraine headaches all his life. I felt the need to take care of and protect my father, who also was bullied by my schizophrenic mother. The big folk lore of our family was my father’s death experience in the camp. He had amoebic dysentary and beri beri, saw himself outside his body, but his late grandmother he had a vision of told him to go back. He returned to his body in the camp and was miraculously healed.I was always fascinated by this story. There is no death, my father always said. I knew that by reading all the yoga books he had, there would be no death. And most of all there would be an escape from this new concentration camp, our home.My mother had severe mental illness. She was creative and sweet one minute, writing poetry and dancing to Sony and Cher, but the next she’d be screaming at you, terrorizing you. She’d come in the middle of the night to your bedroom threatening to cut all your hair off becuase we dared to trim the matted hair off our dog.  She dressed in rags and never combed her hair. Our house was squalid, as it was never cleaned and my mother scoured garage sales and other people’s garbage cans for things. The house was packed to the gills with junk and disorganized. It was so filthy that when my mother screamed at us to clean the kitchen floors, we used a putty knife to scrape the black goo off that came up in curls. Needless to say the local kids teased us and I felt great shame and rage, which I repressed. I retreated into a world of silence and stories and my father’s books on yoga and myths. There was a silence there, a hope, a guide. I could meditate and find peace and I would pray for help. I was in tune with Jesus too, because not only because I was baptized Catholic and went to Episcopal Church, but my father gave me a new age version of the book to read about Jesus called the Aquarian Gospel of Jesus the Christ, which was written by Levi who read the Akashic Records. So a yogic Jesus was also very important to me. You were always on high alert for terror from my mother, and I always felt ungrounded, there was no place safe in our house to be yourself, and I was not allowed to be me, for I cared for my father, and I was careful not to cause trouble like my sisters.  That terror carried over into my adult life. Extreme negative thinking drove me to destructive behaviors. I was so ungrounded that I skipped around life chaoticly, dropping out of things, talking a mile a minute. I was definitley outside my body, outside of reality. Not wanting to be here and now because that was never safe. Even though my sister became the Krishna devotee and talked non-stop about Krishna and things I didn’t understand, that didn’t do a lot of good. What did was my own meditation and my own dealings with suffering. I guess it’s just time and experience. Becoming aware of things, my thoughts, my life, who I thought I was.I had two bouts of suicidal depression when I was 19 and 21 and was hospitalized. Each time I bottomed out, I came to that quiet inner space. Even though the world continues on with suffering and happiness, suffering and happiness, I was still there and present. I had felt it all, and afterwards I was able to counsel people in this. Difficulty happens, but it passes, I’d tell them. Hold to the center, meditate. The difficulty is a gift. It helped you find the center.   More tomorrow!Love and Peace,Sydney Solis  

The Yoga Rocks Fest in Lyons

August 25th, 2008

Namaste!Well, what a gorgeous place to hold a yoga festival! Lyons, Colorado, just north of Boulder, has this incredible park that used to be an old farm. It’s right next to the river and these stunning out croppings of rocks. I swear I’ve had several past lives as a Native American, so these special natural places touch my heart.Naturally I taught in the kids tent. I gave kids a choice of where in the world they wanted to go. China? England? Egypt?  I like to see what my audience wants and likes. I have a zillion stories, ideas, props, etc. to shape the class according to the audience’s needs. Or if the need arises. I’ve taught classes where I’ve switched everything around because the kids were tired or mis behaving or wanted to deal with some issue or something! That’s the hallmark of a good teacher or yoga teacher. I love to find out in adult and teen classes, what ails you? What’s going on in your life? By listening to their issues I can pull out a story and some yoga to suit them. Much better than going in there with my set class. Besides that gets boring. I love the challenge of not knowing. Like I said in a few posts ago, with these preschool kids i just threw all i’d been doing out the door and made new stuff up on the spot! It was great! With children you can be non-stop creative! Well, I hope Yoga Rocks continues as an annual event. It was really nice for a local yoga event. Seems like more yoga events are popping up all the time! Love,Syd